Attraction, not promotion... AKA, the idea that I should not go looking for True Love with a butterfly net, hoping to pounce on something (or someone) whom I believe could help me feel True Love… then attempting to capture them, through sheer force of my will or some other act of forceful manipulation, before taking them home in my net, like they were some sort of treasured bounty I just caught.

Or.... to bend and twist and contort myself into inauthentic pretzel shapes, so as to please somebody into getting them to love me. Sort of like what a marketing team does. Ads are hardly ever about the actual product, amirite? They're all about the pitch, the sale, and the fervent, desperate effort to reel ‘em in. The objective is to get customers to give the company what it wants, whether that’s time, money, attention, accolades, or all the rest of it.

No, no, that’s not how True Love works at all, now, is it? Attraction not promotion, remember. If promotion, in its crassest form, are those awful commercials I have to sit through when I watch "The Love Boat" on my streaming service, even though I am forking over an extra $7.99 a month to the channel that owns the rights to "The Love Boat," which gives me basic access to all ten seasons of "The Love Boat," over and above the fees I’m already paying for the streaming service, itself… Well, you can probably smell my annoyance and outright indignation from here, because nobody asked for all that crass promotion.

Bottom line: nobody likes promotion. It’s coercive, it’s unwanted, it’s intrusive, and it’s dangerously, painfully, and quite obviously fake, anyway. Those ads aren’t interested in me. They just want my money.

But attraction? Attraction is a whole different animal. Attraction is a beautiful, sleek snow leopard, maybe, in contrast to the greasy snake-oil salesman that embodies promotion. The snow leopard, by contrast, has nothing to prove to the masses, nothing to push, nothing to sell. And yet, she is perfect, just the way she is. She attracts mates, she eats, she sleeps, and she putters around her natural environment and doesn’t get troubled by much, except her natural predators, if snow leopards even have any.

Let’s get away from the animal analogy now, because I am equally ignorant of the facts about the animal kingdom as I am about quantum mechanics. Rather, I know a whole lot about a very specific, very limited sliver or the animal kingdom, if You could call human psychology and behavior — along with all the principles of recovery as they relate to the existential, lifetime journey of humankind — part of the animal kingdom.

My point is, I do what I do and I know what I know, and I have the training and expertise to practice what I know, on a professional level. And all I can manage, in the way of promotion (if you could even call it that) is to hang a virtual sign over my office door and see who shows up.

The best part about attraction is what a relief it is that I don’t have to try too hard or do too much — I just have to keep doing what I do, which is helping addicts get into recovery and start loving themselves, as best as I possibly can. But, if I was posting billboards all over Route 933 here, the way the cannabis companies do all the way into Michigan, it would be a totally different story. I’d get all the wrong people trying to come through my door: the parents and spouses of addicts, for example, trying to get me to do interventions, which is a service I simply don’t offer.

True Love tells me that promotion yields inauthentic or unsustainable results, while attraction will typically get me the real deal — meaning, the kinds of people and circumstances that are a good match for who I am, and what I have to offer. The right people find me in virtue of all the pure and unfiltered Truth, and True Love, I’m putting out into the Universe.

Are we clear on this, my dear Addict friends? Because that is how attraction not promotion works — meaning, that is what you all have shown me.

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